The right guy will wait for you—and even better, he’ll want to wait, too.
I experienced the gamut of guys wanting things from me, trying to see how far I’d go, seeing if they would be the one to get me to go further.
It’s a wonderful feeling to be wanted. But you know what’s not a wonderful feeling? When suddenly the guy who seemingly wants you simply stops calling.
You were created to be wanted.
God created us to be in relationship. But not just any relationship—covenant relationship. One man. One woman. Together forever. United as one.
He didn’t create us to come together and then be suddenly separated.
Don’t believe the lies of this world, of the media, and of selfish guys. These are lies from the enemy who wants to bring you down under the guise of lifting you up, of letting you experience the fullness of life, of showing you all you’re missing.
He’s pretty unoriginal. He’s been doing it since the Garden of Eden.
When I met Clay—finally, after so many years of waiting, he never once pressured me to go further physically. Rather, he fought alongside me to protect both our purity.
He didn’t look at me like some religious experiment, testing the waters, seeing if he could be the one to get the Christian virgin to loosen up and give in. He looked at me with the eyes of our Savior and saw me as worthy of pursuing and worthy of sacrifice.
Sister friend, the man you deserve—the type of man God created you to be with—will view you the same way. Don’t settle for anything less than His absolute best for you—a man after His heart, a man who lives out the call of the Gospel. It’s a promise that comes with a call.
On your wedding day, you’ll get to receive one of God’s many promises. But the beauty of covenant love comes with many calls.
And I am here to tell you they are all worth it.
I’m here to remind you that you are worth it.
I’m here to point you to the One who proved you are worth it.
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(all verses NIV unless otherwise specified)
“It is not good for man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” – Genesis 2:18
“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.” – Genesis 2:24
“Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” – Mark 10:9
“The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.” – John 10:10
“Now the serpent was more crafty than any of the wild animals the Lord God had made. He said to the woman, ‘Did God really say, “You must not eat from any tree in the garden”?’… ‘You will not surely die,’ the serpent said to the woman.” – Genesis 3:1, 4
(What followed was Adam and Eve eating the fruit–sinning, not honoring God’s design and boundaries set for their best life. And what resulted was shame, fear, hiding, blame, cursing, and ultimately their banishment from the Garden–from God’s perfect utopia and original design. See Genesis 3:6-23).
“Jesus said to his disciples: ‘Things that cause people to sin are bound to come, but woe to the person through whom they come. It would be better for him to be thrown into the sea with a millstone tied around his neck than for him to cause one of these little ones to sin.” – Luke 17:1-2
“Flee from sexual immorality…” – 1 Corinthians 6:18
“Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure…” – Hebrews 13:4
“Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust…” – Colossians 3:5
“But shows His love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” – Romans 5:8, ESV
“I appeal to you, therefore brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship.” – Romans 12:1, ESV
“I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.” – Galatians 2:20, ESV